I tell you a story.

My children ‘clutter’ a lot.

When they were growing up, I used to ‘declutter’ a lot for them.

But what happens when they are in their twenties; you can’t do that anymore, full-grown adults (??)

So I keep figuring out why it is there are ‘stuff’ poking out, falling on you, when cupboard doors open. Honestly, the whole scene is perplexing and (somewhat) fascinating.

What do I do? (A parent cries and wrings her hands)

Let it be…monitor…let’s see how this pans out.

The truth is, I’ve learnt not to (ok..more truthfully), I’ve learnt to speak less and observe more (before I speak..haha!)

And I’ve noticed (more often than not), the mess does recede…

Is it really ‘clutter’?

What if one is one is still figuring out ‘life’?

(I always think a ‘mess’ is linked to a lack of clarity about one’s goals).

This will take time…

Meanwhile, you gotta see ‘mess’ in a whole new light…

Maybe it ain’t as messed up as one thinks.

But, there still needs to be boundaries.

We live in a collective space.

Put in those guidelines and rules early.

Negotiate, if you must.

#becoming #isitclutter #stillgottahaveboundaries #affectsfamilialrelations